Accept one another, then just as Christ accepted you, in order to bring praise to God. Romans 15:7 (NIV)
There is a guy I am dating online his name is Dodou Barrow he was born and raised in a village called Jiroff that is 100 miles from Banjul. He has 3 siblings his parents are Karamo Barrow and Hawa Samateh his Dad is deceased he has not finished high school. He works as a Sales Clerk at a store in Banjul he is dating Robin Sykes he has one son from another relationship he is a Muslim he is 36 years old and he lives in Banjul Gambia, West Africa. We have been dating since September 5th it been so far so good during our conversations he has revealed to me 4 elements of himself such as.
1. He has a son
As I mentioned in the introduction he has a son from another relationship the average woman like me would not accept that because of the baby mama drama. I used to have an opinion about that I thought about it I said to myself I can’t let the child stop me from dating the father. I was concern about the baby mama drama I told Do I don’t want the child’s mother to cause any problems between us that would break us up he said that never be the case. There haven’t been any problems from the baby mama when you are dating a parent that has children or a child the parent and the child or the children are a package deal you can’t accept the parent and not the child or the children it doesn’t work like that. You have to accept the parent and the child or children together or you don’t.
2. He has not finished high school
He said to me how do you feel about me not finishing high school? I said you are okay I was not expecting you to be a high school dropout he said ok. And I wasn’t I thought he would have a high school diploma I was concern about that because there have been guys that I have dated that has a high school diploma. I looked over that and dated him any way he said he will improve his education.
3. He is poor
When he told me, he was poor I was ok with that because I am poor too. I thought he would ask me for money or depend on me for money he hasn’t done that. Even though he has a job that doesn’t pay enough he still provides for himself, his son and his mother he said to me even though I am poor man the little I have I share it with you that tells me he is not using his poorness as an excuse to take care of me.
4. He is a Muslim
I have heard not to date a Muslim because they believe in Jesus a Christian dating a Muslim can cause problems in the relationship. I was concern about this too because I didn’t want our faiths to be a problem in our relationship my Mom said we don’t have to make this into a problem. I just starting to like him and date him he said he wants to know more about Jesus and the Bible that got me excited because that can lead to him to join the Christian faith a thought came to my head saying he is a Muslim you can’t date him Y’all can be friends just don’t date him. I told my Mom I am going to continue to live my life as a Christian while I am dating him and show loving-kindness to him he said 2 people can have different faiths and they can turn out to be one of the best couples he said I respect your faith I said respect your faith too.
Even though he has not said it he wanted to be accepted and I accepted him with all 4 elements letting the Holy Spirit improve his situation. As Christians is this what we supposed to do accept everyone for what they have or don’t have to let the Holy Spirit take care of the rest. God accepted us while we were sinners and we were full of everything, but we can’t accept people? I know how to feel not to be accepted especially having a learning disability probably you weren’t accepted for some reason not feeling accepted is not a good feeling it’s like you are left hanging. The world is going to accept who they want as Christians we are ought to be different and accepted whoever God brings to us a blessing could be in that people want to be accepted that is the main point of it all.